A LARGE number of marriages tend to break down once infidelity is exposed.
However, one woman was willing to overlook her husband’s affair but explained the final step that needed to be taken to save their relationship.
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In a Reddit post, an unnamed explained the situation from the husband’s point of view.
Owning his actions, the man said he was aware he would be judged but was still open to advice.
The Reddit user began by giving a bit of background on his relationship.
He detailed how his workplace fling began and how it eventually ended.
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“I love my wife but life happened and we drifted apart,” the poster wrote.
“I stupidly had a fling with a co-worker and my wife has literally just found out.
He explained that he “feels horrible” about the situation he has created.
The man expressed regret over his actions, highlighting all his wife’s good qualities.
“I think this has just made me realise how much I could lose,” he wrote.
“She is an amazing woman, wife, mother, I know I don’t deserve her.”
He revealed that his wife was upset at the revelation but agreed to give him another chance.
However, the Redditor’s wife had a stipulation to their reconciliation.
“There is a condition though, which is bothering me, she doesn’t want me to work with [the woman] anymore,” he said.
The man explained that the woman he had cheated with has since become his boss.
“My company has a strong policy against manager/ employee relationships,” he said.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
The poster revealed that the higher-up is usually fired if a relationship between staff is discovered.
With this information in mind, he said his wife has decided to take action.
“My wife plans to report this to my employer, she has evidence of texts, and unless I do something really forceful [my boss] will be fired,” he explained.
“If I do something it probably won’t save her and may drag me down too.”
The Reddit user concluded that his wife’s decision to get the other woman fired might be necessary.
“So basically, to save my marriage, I need to get [my boss] fired,” he said.
